The first time it comes out of her mouth, I’ll smile gleefully. As she repeats “No! No! No!” I’ll laugh, overjoyed. At a young age, she’ll have mastered a wonderful skill. A skill I’m still trying to learn. I know I’ll have to teach her that she has to eat her vegetables, and she has to take a nap. But “No” is not wrong. It is not disobedience.
1. She will know her feelings are valid.
2. She will know that when I no longer guide her, she still has a right to refuse.
The first time a boy pulls her hair after she says no, and the teacher tells her “boys will be boys,” we will go to her together, and explain that my daughter’s body is not a public amenity. That boy isn’t teasing her because he likes her, he is harassing her because it is allowed. I will not reinforce that opinion. If my son can understand that “no means no” so can everyone else’s.
3. She owes no one her silence, her time, or her cooperation.
The first time she tells a teacher, “No, that is wrong,” and proceeds to correct his public school, biased rhetoric, I’ll revel in the fact that she knows her history; that she knows our history. The first time she tells me “No” with the purpose and authority that each adult is entitled, I will stop. I will apologize. I will listen.
4. She is entitled to her feelings and her space. I, even a parent, have no right to violate them.
5. No one has a right to violate them.
The first time my mother questions why I won’t make her kiss my great aunt at Christmas, I’ll explain that her space isn’t mine to control. That she gains nothing but self doubt when she is forced into unwanted affection. I’ll explain that “no” is a complete sentence. When the rest of my family questions why she is not made to wear a dress to our reunion dinner. I will explain that her expression is her own. It provides no growth to force her into unnecessary and unwanted situation.
6. She is entitled to her expression.
When my daughter leaves my home, and learns that the world is not as open, caring, and supportive as her mother, she will be prepared. She will know that she can return if she wishes, that the real world can wait. She will not want to. She will not need to. I will have prepared her, as much as I can, for a world that will try to push her down at every turn.
7. She is her own person. She is complete as she is.I will never punish my daughter for saying no. I want “No” to be a familiar friend. I never want her to feel that she cannot say it. She will know how to call on “No” whenever it is needed, or wanted."
Lessons I Will Teach, Because the World Will Not — Y.S.
The original is good, the comment is STUNNING. Love it!
i am 100% for women responding very rudely and aggressively to disgusting unsolicited messages or dick pics from men on the internet
^^^^^^^^ I support this message with everything I have, except my penis, of which you will not be getting unwanted AND/OR unsolicited pics about.
excuse me hello 911 i have an emergency
yes he’s finding a way to talk about his penis anyway
"white history month" "straight pride" "men’s rights movement"
the unholy trinity
"Yet again we see a 4-H member crying and undoubtedly wracked with guilt over what she’s about to do. This year, as reported by CBC, a young girl from the Comox Valley Club was in tears as she led the steer she raised over the last year into the auction ring at the PNE.
She knows this is the last time she’ll see her beloved animal. She knows it’s going for slaughter and that she’s betrayed a trust and a bond.
Yet adults insist on desensitizing our young people by teaching them that an animal’s value lies in the bottom line. Exploitation for financial gain. To the purchasers, the sponsors, the corporations, the media, - all of us - take a second to think about what is being taught here. It certainly doesn’t make one optimistic for a better and compassionate world.” - rabbitadvocacy
How much longer before the brainwashing takes hold and this girl and her peers are desensitized to the horror they are part of?
I tear up everytime I see or hear about a 4-h kid being forced or coerced into selling an animal they have no doubt bonded with to slaughter.
I participated in a 4-H type of program (not sure if it was 4-H or not) when I was about 10. They never told me what was going to happen to the calf I bottle fed and raised. They said he was going to live on a farm somewhere… until I sat down to dinner one night. Once I was halfway through my burger, my dad said “doesn’t Freddie taste good?”
I cried for days. And I refused to eat meat for a long time, although I wouldn’t go fully vegetarian until 2-3 years later.
Would you do this to a child’s dog or cat? Serve them their hamster fried on a bun? No, of course not, because that’s cruel and, as I’m sure almost everyone will agree, wrong. So what makes it okay to do this when the animal in question is a cow or pig or chicken or rabbit? Because they’re “for food,” and you have to kill them, and you’re not supposed to kill someone you love.
This is horrifying.
yr favourite “female-positive” porn star james deen is a rape apologist
it’s almost like porn has the ability to minimize people’s perceptions and attitudes towards sexual assault or ~~~~something~~~
Warning! Don’t go to OPs blog - they’re pro-porn
James Deen and Dana DeArmond are fucking disgusting excuses for human beings.
shocked to see how much people donated to Darren Wilson. It’s crazy
This is nothing short of deplorable.
The fact that he even got one cent.
i ask again why are they raising money in wilson’s favor for
what does he need money for
it’s thank you money
thank you for killing another black guy
fuck white ppl
"Love In the Time of Tear Gas." Picture from Ferguson