I’m really sick of seeing posts going around about how porn, prostitution, and other forms of the sex trade are just ~going to always exist no matter what~ and therefore women and feminists are ridiculous for trying to say that they are wrong and that they harm women and should be opposed.
You know what else we could say that about? Every fucking political or social issue that we strive to fix. Eating animals, capitalism, exploited labor, every horrible thing under the sun could be argued that it will just “always exist anyway, so why bother trying to eradicate it? Instead, let’s just make sure these exploited members have slightly better conditions instead.” Yeah, um, no?
You guys will argue to your last breath that so many things are wrong on principle and that they need to be abolished or completely opposed. But somehow, when it’s the topic of men being able to trade money in place of genuine consent, men being able to pay for access to women and girls’ bodies at the drop of a dime, and women being otherwise sexually available to men through means of monetary exchange, that’s just something that we will never be able to get rid of so don’t even try? ~*~HaHa dumb feminists, male sex drives will always trump your humanity, idiots!!~*~ How do you not understand that BUYING someone’s consent is literally the epitome of rape culture and will never, ever be anything except totally dehumanizing? As long as women’s and girl’s bodies and sexuality are seen as purchasable commodities, men will never be able to fully grasp the idea of complete consent, and rape culture will continue to thrive.
It makes my fucking skin crawl that you people are putting male sexuality and male desires above the well being of women as a class of people. All of you can eat shit, especially you fucking ~vegan anarchist pro-equality men~ who repost this bullshit.
What’s with the whole “Nobody gets hurt when you watch porn and masturbate, it’s not hurting anybody” - like sorry, I didn’t realise the women being dehumanised, brutalised, raped and degraded weren’t real people and aren’t really harmed during the making of porn. I guess it also doesn’t have material consequences for non-pornographic women either, like encouraging a culture of sexualised violence and normalisation of brutalisation in the bedroom.
Or the women whose relationships and marriages are damaged or even ruined by the men in their lives who watch porn regularly and end up developing unhealthy views towards women as a result, those women’s pain isn’t real either right? This doesn’t even have to mean romantic relationships either. It can also be family relationships like fathers or brothers, or even male friends. Knowing that the men you love enjoy watching the debasement, dehumanization, and abuse of members of your own sex doesn’t harm you at all? Knowing that they couldn’t care less about the damage this does to you and other women isn’t a problem? Get fucking real.
The fact is, a 14-year-old girl may be capable of agreeing to sex with a 49-year-old man, but she doesn’t have the emotional and mental maturity to consent. I was 25 before I realized that every man I’d slept with as a teenager was a pedophile. It seemed to me that since I’d courted the attention, that I was fully culpable. What teenager believes she is not mentally or emotionally capable of full consent? I thought I was an adult, although when I look at the picture of myself from the time period above, I see a child.
I thought I was the exception for these men, the girl so precocious and advanced that it superseded social norms. I thought that I was “older than my chronological age.”
It never occurred to me as a young sexually active teen that the adult men I had relationships with may have been manipulating me, that they had designs and motives I couldn’t see from my limited child’s perspective.
“If men’s kindnesses toward women were really only kindnesses, a man would be pleased if another man or woman offered these kindnesses to him. He would be pleased if another man or woman lit his cigarette or pulled out his chair for him. He would be pleased to derive his income, prestige, power and even his identity from his partner. He would take pride in another man’s or woman’s offer to walk him to his car at night. But in fact, “one of the very nasty things that can happen to a man is his being treated or seen as a woman, or womanlike.”—(Frye 1983, p. 136).”
Sing it with me everybody: *plays cheerful piano chords* Trans men who do not “pass” still have male privilege *piano playing gets intense* and cannot experience misogyny of any form *piano gets soft, singing gets whispery and heartfelt* the only real prejudice you face is transphobia *big finish* stop trying to invade women’s spaces you are misgendering yourself you useless dish rag
So when my Mum told me I needed to lose weight when I was a kid so men would like me, that wasn’t misogyny? When I wasn’t allowed to play sports because they were too rough, that wasn’t misogyny? When I was catcalled in the street, that wasn’t misogyny?
Look, you’re wrong, if society sees you and perceives you as a woman. You will face misogyny. Whether someone faces misogyny or not is not based on their internal identity. An internal identity doesn’t shield you from sexism, it’s not a magic shield.
You are aware by women’s spaces, you also mean bathrooms right? Or maybe for a minority of trans men, women’s prisons?
What do you think would happen to a pre-bottom surgery trans men in a men’s prison?
I own my history and I know my history and you can’t take my experiences away from me. I faced misogyny, I still face misogyny and your ideology is based on absolute bullshit. The only reason you’re saying it is because you don’t want to see intersections of oppression. If you admit trans men faced misogyny pre-transition, you have to admit that trans women didn’t. If you have to admit that trans men faced misogyny, you have to admit we’re an oppressed minority that deserves protection.
You don’t want to do that though because you want a sacrificial lamb.
This is just an attempt to silence us and you can fuck off if you think I’ll ever let you silence my history for cheap social justice points.
So over all these grey-haired wrinkly sacks of shit basically falling out of their stupid over-sized trucks to stare at me on my morning bike rides. I’m always wearing sunglasses and facing forward so they don’t realize I’m lurking them, but ugh it’s so disgusting how almost every old dude I pass does it.
My fat ass is all sweaty and gross and wearing dumb raggedy clothes and they still have to make a point to break their necks and stare me down just to remind me that men are repulsive turds who never quit. It’d be really nice to be able to leave the house without feeling intimidated and dehumanized.
Pushing your own boundaries sexually to please your partner is not an expression of ‘love’. Making yourself uncomfortable, making sexual ‘sacrifices’ (i.e. engaging in kinks you’re not comfortable doing) is not being a good partner. Being a good partner does not involve making yourself sexually uncomfortable or letting your partner coerce you into doing things you don’t want to do, and don’t ever let someone try to convince you otherwise.
I absolutely cannot stand Michael Fassbender and I’m so pissed off that he’s all over my dash. He is complete and utter trash.
His ex filed a restraining order against him for breaking her nose. On another occasion – “Michael allegedly dragged her alongside their car one night after they had an argument about one of her ex-boyfriends … causing her to twist her left ankle, blow out her left knee cap and burst an ovarian cyst”.
Keira Knightley filmed a spanking scene with him and said “I’ve got a security guard outside. You touch me and he’s gonna break your legs!” Michael’s reply to this? “Keira, you’re tied to a bed. You’re not really in a position to say that.”
For fucks sake are we just gonna pretend these things didn’t happen?
What do you use to treat your cat for fleas? I'm vegan and my indoor cat has them really bad so I was gonna bite the bullet and buy Advantage for her but it's a Bayer product and they test on animals :/ I really want her to get better so I might have to buy it but I don't know what to do
I use Advantage on my cats for flea preventative/treatment. They do test on animals, unfortunately, but I don’t know of any effective flea medicine that does not. At the time being, it seems to be something that is unavoidable until there is an alternative. Some people use natural remedies, but I have never had any luck with those. One important thing, though, is never use the cheap kind of flea medicine you can get in regular stores — those have been proven to cause horrible reactions in animals (like Hartz and the like).
I view it the way I view humans taking necessary medications that are tested on animals. You do what you have to do to take care of yourself and the animals in your care. If your cat is infested with fleas, she is going to be miserable and her health will be suffering, so it’s important to treat her. You do the best you can, and avoid it whenever practical or possible, but don’t let yourself or your animals go untreated when in need.
No, not all feminists are lesbians. But if we were, how would that make the fight any less valid? Is our purpose somehow solidified and scaled by how much we are personally invested in men? And if that is so, don’t you now see why we need feminism?
“Male fantasies, male fantasies, is everything run by male fantasies? Up on a pedestal or down on your knees, it’s all a male fantasy: that you’re strong enough to take what they dish out, or else too weak to do anything about it. Even pretending you aren’t catering to male fantasies is a male fantasy: pretending you’re unseen, pretending you have a life of your own, that you can wash your feet and comb your hair unconscious of the ever-present watcher peering through the keyhole, peering through the keyhole in your own head, if nowhere else. You are a woman with a man inside watching a woman. You are your own voyeur.”—Margaret Atwood, The Robber Bride (via chartyourowncourse)
“My response to the “I am not a feminist” internet phenomenon….
First of all, it’s clear you don’t know what feminism is. But I’m not going to explain it to you. You can google it. To quote an old friend, “I’m not the feminist babysitter.”
But here is what I think you should know.
You’re insulting every woman who was forcibly restrained in a jail cell with a feeding tube down her throat for your right to vote, less than 100 years ago.
You’re degrading every woman who has accessed a rape crisis center, which wouldn’t exist without the feminist movement.
You’re undermining every woman who fought to make marital rape a crime (it was legal until 1993).
You’re spitting on the legacy of every woman who fought for women to be allowed to own property (1848). For the abolition of slavery and the rise of the labor union. For the right to divorce. For women to be allowed to have access to birth control (Comstock laws). For middle and upper class women to be allowed to work outside the home (poor women have always worked outside the home). To make domestic violence a crime in the US (It is very much legal in many parts of the world). To make workplace sexual harassment a crime.
In short, you know not what you speak of. You reap the rewards of these women’s sacrifices every day of your life. When you grin with your cutsey sign about how you’re not a feminist, you ignorantly spit on the sacred struggle of the past 200 years. You bite the hand that has fed you freedom, safety, and a voice.
In short, kiss my ass, you ignorant little jerks.”—Libby Anne