When femininity means being small, smooth-skinned, without body hair, unable to walk confidently or capably, high-voiced, with big eyes, usually dressed in colorful clothes, attracted to shiny and sparkly objects, silly, charming, illogical, giggly, pouty, emotional, irrational, impressionable, incompetent, physically weak, and dependent—how do we not recognize that this is essentially a description of a baby or a toddler?
I don’t think our individual fashion choices make or break the patriarchy but this point could use more consideration than it gets. What does it do to a woman every time she decides to remove the markers of being an adult, and make herself more baby-like in order to be acceptable or attractive to men? What does compliance cost us?
If this idea of femininity looks normal to you, try seeing how strange it actually is. These are some disturbing underpinnings.
It’s very comforting to think we’ll be able to solve America’s nutrition crisis by building more grocery stores in low-income neighborhoods and educating low-income families on how to cook healthy, nutritious meals.
But the unfortunate truth is that more grocery stores and nutrition education (while helpful to some people) doesn’t address the larger problem — which is that eating is expensive.
According to the Population Reference Bureau, the number of low-income families is increasing. The report defines low-income working families as “those earning less than twice the federal poverty line.”
In 2011, the low-income threshold for a family of four with two children was $45,622. If you estimate rent at $1000/month, which is quite low for a family of four, that leaves about $33,000 for health care, transportation costs, clothing, and groceries for four people. That’s $687.50 per person per month for every single expense except rent.
Let’s do some more math.
Gala apples are among the cheapest fruit nationally. The USDA lists them at $1.16 a pound at the time I’m writing this article. There are about three apples to a pound, so if you wanted to buy your two kids an apple for each day of the week, you would spend $5.80 just on an afternoon snack for your kids. And let’s keep in mind that apples are relatively low-calorie, which means they aren’t very filling.
Six bucks doesn’t seem like much to someone with a middle class salary, but when you’re working with a weekly budget of under $700 per week for everything you need, including car repairs, gas money, winter clothing for constantly growing children, toilet paper, laundry detergent, electric bills… $5.80 starts to look pretty hefty for a snack that won’t even satisfy.
“I look at this list and can’t help but wonder how she’s supposed to do it. If $11 of apples equals two snacks, but $3 in Ramen will feed her entire family for dinner, how can she possibly pick apples with her limited food stamp budget?”McClay wonders.“And how will she ever afford to fill half of every mealtime plate with fruits and veggies, the amount recommended by the same government that issued her food stamps?”
It’s a good question.
The US government heavily subsidizes some foods, such as corn and soybeans. The result is that processed foods that are heavy in these ingredients end up being cheaper than fresh produce, which is not as heavily subsidized, if it is at all.
There is a serious disconnect between what we should be eating to stay healthy, and what the economic reality is.
”—Why Judging People for Buying Unhealthy Food Is Classist by Wiley Reading
women are not oppressed because of some “feminine spirit” that we all share
how misogynistic can you fucking get
We’re oppressed because of our biology—our chromosomes and subsequent physiological development. Gender isn’t real. It’s a social construct and a form of behavioral control created by the Heteropatriarchy to control the sexes, *especially* the female sex. Gender stereotypes and roles vary from culture to culture, but sex—a biological reality— is constant. There will always be females, males and intersex people. If our oppression was all about our fashion choices, mannerisms and appearances then only feminine women+girls would be oppressed, and yet non-gender conforming women+girls are also targeted for misogynistic discrimination. It’s about our femaleness, this is sex-based oppression, not “how you feel and dressed today” oppression. The Heteropatriarchy and those who uphold it don’t give a shit whether or not you decided to wear a sun dress and winged eyeliner or a pantsuit and no make up today. The Heteropatriarchy and those who uphold it will treat you like shit regardless simply because you are female, gender-conforming or not.
“Ugly is more than a physical description. For a woman, it’s meant to be shorthand for worthless, undesirable, and undeserving. And lesbians are by popular definition ugly women. This categorization of dykes as ugly serves a purpose. It’s not only meant to make claiming the identity less appealing, it also provides a perfect explanation for why some women choose women over men. In fact, it’s meant to rob us of that choice: presumably, we are involved with women because we are too ugly to attract a man’s attention. The problem is, we don’t seem to be aware of how ugly we really are.”—
"The Ugly Dyke", Wendy Chapkis from Looking Queer: Body Image in Lesbian, Bisexual, Gay, and Transgender Communities, ed Dawn Atkins (via poesizing)
"But the problem is, we dont seem to be aware of how ugly we really are. After all, if lesbians are such ugly women, where do we get off acting as if we deserve respect, civil rights, and perhaps most offensively, sexual pleasure? The media constantly remind us that only the beautiful people deserve love, lust, and life satisfaction."
Omg, read the whole thing, it’s awesome. (via goodolbois)
i can’t hear anyone say “do you think women are equal to men? congratulations you’re a feminist!” without gritting my teeth like god please stop reducing a political movement to one pithy, hugely oversimplifying little sentence
Its so annoying to me how women are perceived as "masculine" and "letting them selves go" and "acting like a man" and "rebelling" and what not when we simply dont spend 70% of our time on our looks. Dont shave ur legs? Unhygienic! Dont pluck ur eyebrows? You fucking neanderthal! And meanwhile, men can walk around looking like chewbacca wearing worn jeans and flannel and that's considered proper.
“It’s hard not to feel humorless as a woman and a feminist, to recognize misogyny in so many forms, some great and some small, and know you’re not imagining things. It’s hard to be told to lighten up because if you lighten up any more, you’re going to float the fuck away. The problem is not that one of these things is happening, it’s that they are all happening, concurrently and constantly.
These are just songs. They are just jokes. They are just movies. It’s just a hug. They’re just breasts. Smile, you’re beautiful. Can’t a man pay you a compliment? In truth, this is all a symptom of a much more virulent cultural sickness — one where women exist to satisfy the whims of men, one where a woman’s worth is consistently diminished or entirely ignored.”—Roxane Gay, What Men Want, America Delivers (via sarahjeanalex)
emotional abuse is when someone does something to hurt you, and when you express your feelings, that you’re upset, they turn it around to be something you did to hurt them and they force you to apologize for it, and your feelings, like always, are rendered invalid and silenced, forever damaging the ability to trust others with your feelings because they always are used against you.
this is important because so many people don’t know this
please don’t get your pets high. they trust you and they love you. and it is really bad for them and can make them sick or kill them. please be a responsible pet owner. and it is very upsetting to see a lethargic animal just because you thought it would be funny to blow smoke in their face.
I read the story about the guy who stopped riding his hourses because it's not good for them. Can you post the link where you said why riding hourses isn't good for them? I can't find anything about that in the Internet. would be really kind!
Maksida Vogt has a lot of articles and references under some literature titled "The Harm of Riding": 1, 2, 3, 4