you are cute but please
stop stepping on my organs
ow that was my boob
When femininity means being small, smooth-skinned, without body hair, unable to walk confidently or capably, high-voiced, with big eyes, usually dressed in colorful clothes, attracted to shiny and sparkly objects, silly, charming, illogical, giggly, pouty, emotional, irrational, impressionable, incompetent, physically weak, and dependent—how do we not recognize that this is essentially a description of a baby or a toddler?
I don’t think our individual fashion choices make or break the patriarchy but this point could use more consideration than it gets. What does it do to a woman every time she decides to remove the markers of being an adult, and make herself more baby-like in order to be acceptable or attractive to men? What does compliance cost us?
If this idea of femininity looks normal to you, try seeing how strange it actually is. These are some disturbing underpinnings.
Original vintage press photo of Angela Davis arriving for her trial in April 1972.
Highland Mother and calf having an afternoon dip in the Inverie River, Knoydart, Scotland by Alexander Sutherland
It’s very comforting to think we’ll be able to solve America’s nutrition crisis by building more grocery stores in low-income neighborhoods and educating low-income families on how to cook healthy, nutritious meals.
But the unfortunate truth is that more grocery stores and nutrition education (while helpful to some people) doesn’t address the larger problem — which is that eating is expensive.
According to the Population Reference Bureau, the number of low-income families is increasing. The report defines low-income working families as “those earning less than twice the federal poverty line.”
In 2011, the low-income threshold for a family of four with two children was $45,622. If you estimate rent at $1000/month, which is quite low for a family of four, that leaves about $33,000 for health care, transportation costs, clothing, and groceries for four people. That’s $687.50 per person per month for every single expense except rent.
Let’s do some more math.
Gala apples are among the cheapest fruit nationally. The USDA lists them at $1.16 a pound at the time I’m writing this article. There are about three apples to a pound, so if you wanted to buy your two kids an apple for each day of the week, you would spend $5.80 just on an afternoon snack for your kids. And let’s keep in mind that apples are relatively low-calorie, which means they aren’t very filling.
Six bucks doesn’t seem like much to someone with a middle class salary, but when you’re working with a weekly budget of under $700 per week for everything you need, including car repairs, gas money, winter clothing for constantly growing children, toilet paper, laundry detergent, electric bills… $5.80 starts to look pretty hefty for a snack that won’t even satisfy.
“I look at this list and can’t help but wonder how she’s supposed to do it. If $11 of apples equals two snacks, but $3 in Ramen will feed her entire family for dinner, how can she possibly pick apples with her limited food stamp budget?”McClay wonders.“And how will she ever afford to fill half of every mealtime plate with fruits and veggies, the amount recommended by the same government that issued her food stamps?”
It’s a good question.
The US government heavily subsidizes some foods, such as corn and soybeans. The result is that processed foods that are heavy in these ingredients end up being cheaper than fresh produce, which is not as heavily subsidized, if it is at all.
There is a serious disconnect between what we should be eating to stay healthy, and what the economic reality is."
Being a girl, being a woman has destroyed so many things in me and that’s my damage and that’s why I’m mad
women are not oppressed because of some “feminine spirit” that we all share
how misogynistic can you fucking get
We’re oppressed because of our biology—our chromosomes and subsequent physiological development. Gender isn’t real. It’s a social construct and a form of behavioral control created by the Heteropatriarchy to control the sexes, *especially* the female sex. Gender stereotypes and roles vary from culture to culture, but sex—a biological reality— is constant. There will always be females, males and intersex people. If our oppression was all about our fashion choices, mannerisms and appearances then only feminine women+girls would be oppressed, and yet non-gender conforming women+girls are also targeted for misogynistic discrimination. It’s about our femaleness, this is sex-based oppression, not “how you feel and dressed today” oppression. The Heteropatriarchy and those who uphold it don’t give a shit whether or not you decided to wear a sun dress and winged eyeliner or a pantsuit and no make up today. The Heteropatriarchy and those who uphold it will treat you like shit regardless simply because you are female, gender-conforming or not.